Comments on Big Girl Buddha Pants: Reckoning

Magpie- I think I did a poor job with this post :)...

2010-06-11T07:21:19.718-07:00

Magpie- I think I did a poor job with this post :), anger is ok, it's when I hold on to it and let it fester and get caught up in a whole story of anger and what it is and what it means and it just builds and builds until I'm not even sure what I'm angry about anymore that it's yicky, that's the part I'd like to kick to the curb, not so much the emotion itself but the festering part :) Welcome back from Madrid :)

Anger is necessary sometimes you know. I feel thin...

2010-06-11T05:59:42.784-07:00

Anger is necessary sometimes you know. I feel things deeply, very deeply, and it doesn't matter whether it's anger or love or sadness or happiness. It doesn't bother me, I don't believe I should excise it from my life unless it's irrational or harmful - I think it's an emotion, right there where it should be, nestled next to all the others.

Having said that, it'd be nice not to feel it for a while!

yes, i know that being tough act all too well. i d...

2010-06-09T14:48:43.584-07:00

yes, i know that being tough act all too well. i do it, too, sometimes.

Nathan- You are absolutely right, of course. Inte...

2010-06-08T14:26:09.480-07:00

Nathan-
You are absolutely right, of course. Interesting that your most recent blog post dealt with hatred, must be something in the air!

I don't know if I expressed it correctly, my issue isn't that I get angry, it's that sometimes I pack all that anger in and say "this is why I have to be tough" and "look how much life has kicked me" which leads to not loving freely and fully and to developing too much of a wounded dog "self". And that is what harms me.

I'm far too fiery of an Irish girl to believe that I should not (or even could not!) get angry, it's just that I'd like it to not get so stuck.

Make sense?

i don't know anyone who is completely free of ...

2010-06-08T07:48:52.449-07:00

i don't know anyone who is completely free of anger. and you know, when it comes to Buddhism, the bigger issue is hatred, not anger. doesn't mean we should go around getting angry at everything, but i think the translations that have happened, plus the excessive focus on western psychology in convert Buddhist circles, contributes to an over emphasis on never getting angry.

instead of beating yourself up for feeling entitled to being pissed off, try to accept that you got pissed off and pay attention to how it came up in the first place.

you can't let go of this anger if you've never accepted it in the first place.